Gary Lamb unloaded on his former friends in a remarkable post on Saturday where he tells what he has learned in the “real world” the last few months. Some excepts:
I had some of the fakest friendships in the world. People I thought were my best friends I haven’t spoken to once since I had an affair.
One of his former best friends, Perry Noble, didn’t appreciate the attention, and fired back with a pointed tweet.
Hate to see people play the victim when the people they blew apart with their choices are actually the real victims!!!
Noble’s relationship with Lamb must have, in Furtick’s words, outgrown its season.
Criticism makes me better. I had shielded myself from criticism to the point that I couldn’t see my flaws.
Lamb is warning against the kind of insulation married with vengeance directed at dissent practiced by his pals.
Men are pigs. I was the king of sexual jokes, second looks, and inappropriate thoughts (yes as a pastor and you’d probably be shocked at some of your current pastors in this area) but this is one of the areas I have been getting the most help to overcome. As I overcome it, I am left speechless at how little respect men have for women.
Being “real” means loving your wife like Christ loved the church…being FAITHFUL to her no matter what!
Lamb also talked about what happened at his former church.
Revolution Failed. That is not a knock on Revolution, the people or the staff, it is a knock on me. Big freaking deal that we ran the numbers we ran. The fact is the people in Canton aren’t going to church, want nothing to do with the things of God, and are searching for answers. They could care less how cool the show was every week.
No scoreboard argument here. Lamb also sees now that his church really was all about him. When he failed, his church failed. This is an encouraging insight.
People HATE the church. Wow! Again, I knew the church was a sore subject for people but I had no idea how deep the feelings ran. People hate churches and to be honest, I can’t blame them.
This is discouraging, though, and suggests that Lamb needs to wait much longer before making his planned move back into ministry. The people he meets quite likely do hate the church–something that Lamb himself might bear some responsibility for–, though Jesus does love his church. If we love Jesus, we’ll love his church. Although Lamb has learned a great deal about the failure of his own ministry (beyond his moral failings), one senses that his next church will be even more anti-Christian than his first one.
I worked less than the people I pastored. Ministry was my job yet I asked our people to serve, volunteer, etc. AFTER they have worked 50-60 hour work weeks.
Noble and Furtick typically reject quiet discipleship and learning for activity. Church members need to be proving their devotion to the church by doing stuff for the church. Beyond the question of whether that is really discipleship, Lamb’s pastor friends might evaluate his insight into the long-term sustainability of the you’re-in-the-army-now treatment that church members often experience.